Love is a longing to include someone as a part of yourself. It is a possibility to become more than what you are, by inclusion.
Falling in love,” is significant because no one rises in love or climbs in love. You fall in love, because something of who you are has to go. If not the whole of you, at least a part of you should collapse. Only then there is a love. You are willing to destroy a bit of yourself for the sake of the other. It essentially means someone else has become far more important than yourself.
But unfortunately, what most people call “love” is just a mutual benefit scheme.
But If we can look at everything lovingly, the whole world becomes beautiful in our experience. We realize love is not something that we do; love is the way we are.
When we talk about love, it has to be unconditional. There is really no such thing as conditional love and unconditional love. It is just that there are conditions and there is love. The moment there is a condition, it just amounts to a transaction. Maybe a convenient transaction, maybe a good arrangement – maybe many people made excellent arrangements in life – but that will not fulfill you; that will not transport you to another dimension. It is just the convenient.
What we do, what we do not do, is according to circumstances around us. Our actions are as the external situation demands. What we do outside of ourselves is always subject to many conditions. But love is an inner state – how we are within ourselves can definitely be unconditional.
Love is not something to do with someone else. Love is never between two people. It is what happens within us, and what happens within us need not be enslaved to someone else. For 15 to 20 minutes daily, go sit with something that means nothing to you – maybe a tree, or a pebble, or a worm or an insect. After some time, you will find you can look upon it with as much love as you do your wife or husband or your mother or your child. Maybe the worm does not know this. That doesn’t matter. If you can look at everything lovingly, the whole world becomes beautiful in your experience. You realize love is not something that you do; love is the way you are.
It is a pity that we are all running and not even realizing this. We are chasing a moment of happiness unaware of the fact that this moment is NOW.
I defined the importance of love and moment in this short poem in my book.
This moment is the moment I have
I could feel and see you in this moment
I know no past and no future
I love to love in this moment
Oh, Naina, moment of undying love and purity
This is what I demand and seek
I feel the moment in this moment
We are always either in past or in future. But from the creator perspective, our definition of time is not only funny but meaningless too. A moment, which has already been buried or has not arrived yet, we devote all our focus ignoring our momentary NOW.
According to quantum theory, everything in this infinite consciousness is being reborn and destroyed billions of time in a fraction of seconds. Even Vipassana meditation fundamentals are based on this principles. It is said that Buddha and other great sage understood this mystery and propagated the same.
Because of the same reason, slow breathing techniques are outstanding stress buster. When one breath deeply,focus is diverted on life force, which is flowing from your body NOW. Our brain stops releasing stress hormones and then entire body feels easy and relax.
Unfortunately, our beliefs are more of destroyer of our peace. Since childhood, we are conditioned to live in past and future and constantly ignoring present.
I know, it needs to be stopped. This nonsense chain of conditioning must be broken before it devour and kills the peace from our true experience.
Live in the moment, because this is what you have.